sex therapy
SEX THERAPY
IN NEW YORK CITY
“Eroticism in the home requires active engagement and willful intent. It is an ongoing resistance to the message that marriage is serious, more work than play; and that passion is for teenagers and the immature.”-Esther Perel
Sex Therapy in NYC
We are kink and sex-positive therapists and don’t subscribe to the notion that “alternative sexual lifestyles” stem from trauma, nor do we take a stance of pathologizing.
We offer support around exploring kinks, navigating boundaries with partners, processing erotic conflicts, healing from emotional trauma, addressing issues relating to performance or desire, overcoming shame, reconciling the impact of substance use on erotic life, and several other issues. If you don’t see your specific issue listed and would like to have a complimentary phone consultation to see if our practice feels right for you, please trust we will hear you with openness and compassion.
Much like sex, sex therapy requires effort and some workshopping to determine what feels right. Our clinical techniques vary based on what your goals are, and some of our interventions include using a combination of talk therapy, cognitive behavioral therapies, and EMDR.
What Is Sex Therapy?
Sex therapy in NYC is a type of therapy that aims to help both couples and individuals suffering from sexual dysfunction.
Sexual dysfunction is a common problem among couples and individuals worldwide. Around 43% of women and 31% of men experience some type of sexual dysfunction in their lifestyles. These include the following symptoms:
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Low libido
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Erectile dysfunction
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Premature ejaculation
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Lack of interest
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Low confidence or shame
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Low response to sexual stimuli
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Inability to reach orgasm
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Inability to control sexual behavior
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Having distressing or intrusive thoughts during or about sex
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Pain during sex
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There are many reasons why these issues arise, ranging from underlying medical conditions to personal, interpersonal, and psychological stressors.
Whatever the case may be, there’s no doubt that these issues can have a major impact on your sex life. They can hinder your satisfaction and pleasure, which can influence your view on sex, intimacy, and relationships. With sexual dysfunction in the picture, it can be extremely difficult to achieve a fulfilling sex life.
Our goal is to help you move past physical and emotional boundaries and achieve a healthy, satisfying, and pleasurable sex life.
What does sex therapy look like?
Much like psychotherapy, sex therapy in NYC focuses on uncovering present issues and determining their root cause. To achieve this, we need to have an in-depth discussion about your experiences, feelings, and worries.
Because sex is such a private matter, many couples and individuals tend to keep the events that happen within the bedroom to themselves. More often than not, they attribute the problems during sexual intercourse to their own shortcomings, not realizing that there’s a much bigger issue that needs to be addressed: sexual dysfunction.
Not a lot of people like to talk about sexual dysfunction, despite it being such a common issue. Rather, they’d like to keep it to themselves and try to solve it on their own.
But with so many treatment options available, the best way to overcome this problem is to talk about it with partners and healthcare providers. This is where our therapists at Clarity Therapy can come alongside you to offer support and treatment.
How Sex Therapy Works
When you seek our guidance, you’re entering a non-judgmental space. No matter your concerns regarding sex, whether they’re related to desire, arousal, orgasm, fantasies, fears, or kinks, our therapists listen with an open mind.
Together, we can explore the concerns to help you improve how you cope in the future. With professional guidance and support, you can move forward to a healthier and happier sex life.
Creating an atmosphere of trust and comfort is key for therapy to be beneficial. With every session, we support and encourage you in exploring new ways of thinking, behaving, and problem-solving. Some therapists may ask you to complete certain tasks before your next appointment. We’ll help you explore different approaches and perspectives when it comes to sex so you can have a more holistic understanding of what your mind and body are capable of.
THERAPISTS WHO CAN HELP
NYC Therapists Who Specialize in Sex Therapy
Connecting with the right therapist is the most important factor in your search. We’re here to help you find a great match.
What does Sex-Positive mean?
At Clarity Therapy, our goal is to create an inclusive, non-judgemental environment where we celebrate sexuality and all types of sexual expressions. Sex is a natural element of our lives and is an integral component of a healthy lifestyle.
By providing sex-positive therapy, our mission is to de-stigmatize sexual concerns and challenge misconceptions that may interfere with your sexual health or emotional wellbeing.
We understand that sex is not a one-size-fits-all topic, and we embrace the diversity that comes with it. Through sex-positive therapy, we foster attitudes of inclusivity, acceptance, and support — no matter what.
LGBTQIA+ Couples
Our therapists are LGBTIQIA+-affirming and are competent in LGBTQIA+-affirming therapy. We have experience working with members from the LGBTQIA+ community and provide personalized therapeutic care based on the needs of each individual and couple. Whether you just recently came out and are unsure of how you can explore your sexuality, or want further guidance to help you find more pleasure with your partner, our specialists can help you achieve your goals.
Consensual Polyamorous Relationships
Traditional societal views of non-monogamy tend to be negative and are often stigmatizing. If you’re in a consensual polyamorous relationship, you may have even faced judgement from mental health providers in the past. We have a deep respect for each individual’s consensual sexual expression which includes non-monogamy. Regardless of your concern, our therapists who specialize in sex therapy for polyamorous couples can help.
Kink + BDSM
Kink and BDSM may be taboo topics in society, but they’re never something to be ashamed of. Exploring the limitless boundaries of intimacy and sexual intercourse is a natural trajectory for individuals and couples alike.
Whether you’re just beginning your exploration journey, looking for ways to expand, or acknowledging your unique preferences, it’s vital to work with a sex therapist who is non-judgmental and sex-positive.
Introducing kinks into your relationship(s) or bedroom can be awkward at first, but with the help of a sex-positive, kind-affirming therapist at Clarity Therapy, you can curate conversations with your partner(s) so you can create a more comfortable environment for all parties involved.
When it comes to sex, it’s not only about attaining pleasure, but it’s also about providing the right education and designing a safe plan so all parties involved feel supported.
Through our guidance, you can explore your sexuality freely, achieve complete autonomy, and take your sex life to a much deeper level while ironing out the bumps that may come along the way.
What If I’m Not Ready To Start Therapy?
We know that sex therapy can be a daunting leap for you. If you’re not ready to pursue this path yet, don’t worry. There are other alternatives you can explore first to help you overcome your challenges.
Write Down Your Fantasies
Perhaps you’re not having a satisfying sex life because you’re not getting what you want from your partner, which can be a little frustrating. If this is your issue, try to write down your fantasies. Think about positions, scenarios, and activities that turn you on.
If you have yet to discover what your sexual fantasies are, try to remember an experience or a movie that aroused you. Then, you can go from there. It always helps to share your fantasies with your partner — and encourage them to share with you too — to help keep them in the loop. Next time you decide to have sex, they know what to do to make it more pleasurable for you.
Explore Different Positions
Another technique is to try various positions. Developing a repertoire of diverse positions can not only add more interest to lovemaking but, more importantly, help you overcome certain problems. For example, if you’re having problems reaching orgasm, changing positions can help you find the best motion for increased stimulation and pleasure.
Communicate With Your Partner
Many sexual concerns within couples often stem from a lack of communication between partners. To ensure that all parties enjoy the act of sex, it’s important to share worries, concerns, and desires with each other.
It can be challenging to voice what you want from your partner, especially if there’s some underlying negative feelings such as shame involved. To reach ultimate satisfaction, each person plays a part. The only way to do so is if everyone knows their roles, which can only be achieved through communication.
It is important to note that your partner should never make you feel uncomfortable or pressure you into doing something you don’t want to. Make sure to openly communicate if you’re not willing or ready to try something new, and see if you can reach a consensual agreement that you will both enjoy.
Practice Mindfulness
As much as sexual intercourse is a physical activity, it’s also a mental one. Your mind and body work simultaneously to reach orgasmic bliss. That said, if you want to enhance your pleasure and reach a powerful climax, keep your complete attention on what you’re doing and feeling.
Being distracted mentally can hinder your desire and dampen the mood. Avoid this by practicing mindful exercises like yoga and meditation. One study from The Journal of Sexual Medicine shows that women who practice at least an hour of yoga can increase arousal, desire, lubrication, orgasm, and overall satisfaction. We believe this can be true for people of any gender.
With these tips, you can start to overcome your sexual frustrations. Once you’re ready for the next step, you can consult with our sex therapist at Clarity Therapy and achieve complete fulfillment in the sexual act.
Are you struggling with sex?
We can help.
Sex therapy can empower you to resolve various sexual issues ranging from sexual functioning to difficulties in your sexual relationships. Schedule a complimentary consultation today with one of our therapists who specialize in sex therapy.